The Better Halves of a Man's Life

The Better Halves of a Man’s Life

....And then God made Eve; “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a companion fit for him.”

Any form of feminine being; mothers, sisters, friends, girl friends, any form; makes a major part of our life. They make the “better half” of different stages of our lives. The soft spoken, caring and loving natured; set in “sweet” mode by default from birth; women and girls bring an unexplainable meaning to our lives. Somehow there is something in women that one can like or hate, but simply can’t ignore.

Mother’s love is one of the greatest gifts on earth; most of us take it for granted. Try living away from your mother for some time and you’ll realize what it is worth. The love, the unspoken love is something that you can never ever forget. The bond that extends over all boundaries; the care she shows for you; her doing everything that makes you happy, everyday, without expecting anything in return, the only person who wants nothing but the best for you in every way: Mothers are God’s greatest gifts; God in human form itself. The arms ever-ready to embrace you, the relief one gets saying “Maa...”; the hand that you held in your deepest fears, the one you always remember when you cry. We may change, our lives may change, but this love shall never change; this person you shall never forget; this person you can never replace; not today, not tomorrow, never.

Sisters; irritating, bossing, sometimes intimidating, arch enemies, giving you the biggest headaches... Whatever. But they are sisters, that’s their job. She’s your very own sister; you’ve shared more than just something; you’ve shared your mother’s womb, your childhood, your most true self. You might have fought for decades! But, she is your sister, the one who knows everything about you; even the stuff you didn’t want her to know. She knows you and loves you as much as you mother. Elder sisters are almost like your second mother; and younger, just like your own baby. The fights over stupid things, the complaining to parents, the forcefully hidden love, the “rakhis”, the un-publicized care; it’s something one can never forget. For those who have never had any, we can never experience this for ourselves; and something we will always wish for; someone we will always wish we had.

From adolescence through teenage, youth, middle and then old age; girls to women form a very important part of our lives. Even as children, boys would have more fun with girls. There is something about them, kind of like magnetic field that gives a feeling of completeness. Explaining it is tough. Through teenage, its the phase when boys start noticing things in girls. Girls are no longer just girls. They have changed, from just cute and sweet to beautiful and, well, hot. Post teens and in youth, you now see more than just “hotness”. You actually understand the meaning of love, and find your love. The heavenly bond of marriage shines upon you and once again, role of women changes in your life. You have someone to spend the rest of your life with, someone with whom you can start a family, someone called a wife; someone who is now an inseparable part of your life.

Many people claim they have found their best friends in the opposite sex. At any point of life, girls are more mature than boys of the same age. They are capable of taking much more mature decisions and, many times, the right ones. Till one age, we take advice from our parents, but then its our friends we would go for first. And girls do make really good friends. They understand feelings; at least the closer ones do. And their natural instinct; the women’s sixth sense as some call it; is something we find trustworthy. Some say boys and girls can never be just friends; fine. But girls can be the best of friends one can ever have. Even in matters of love, girls can help you realize what is right and what is wrong; what is best for you. (You may relate it to like “only metal cuts metal” (lol!))

Any day, talking or interacting with women gives some kind of satisfaction; in which way? I don’t know; just an unknown sense of completeness. It may be mom, any of my friends, colleagues or cousins. Something about talking to them completes my day. A sweet voice, speaking mostly of useless stuff, but still giving a kind of good feeling; the gossiping, and childish taunts, the sweetness, the amazing way of finding cute things even in the ugliest of things; every boy would say he hates all this, but, some of us like it. Well you relate it to the “feminine part of men” or something like that.

Mothers, sisters, friends; fine. Then comes a stage in life where you now want someone; to share with, to bond with, to tell everything, to complete you, to love you like no one has. Its youth and now it’s time to find her; your love. It’s again a time when role of women changes; the girl friend phase as some call it. It’s when you want to be with someone; want to spend all the time in the world; someone you want to see when you sleep and when you wake up; someone to complete you; someone you can spend the rest of your life with, someone you want to start a family with, someone with whom you can have kids, raise them, and grow old and spend the rest of your life in the “happily ever after” way. The someone who will love you in happiness and misery; the someone you can always count on; the someone who will always bring happiness in your life; the someone you will always want to make happy; the someone who is your wife, and you her husband; the someone you will always find standing beside you; the someone who will be a better friend than the best of friends, the someone who knows you completely, the someone you know completely. The love between them will not diminish even by death. Finding the perfect “someone” is not in everyone’s destiny and, well, not in everyone’s understanding either.

Women are like the oppositely charged particles that balance men; that neutralize the society. It is women that make life colourful, beautiful and worth living. They are the purest form of God’s beauty and care. And as long as one shall live, women shall continue to be “the better half” of his life.